Is First Date Sex a Relationship Killer?
So you go on a date and you are really digging him. Everthing seems to be going great and before you know it you are in his bed making out. Should you have first date sex? Will he respect you the next day? Will he call you? Will he automatically rule out a relationship with you?
How Do Men Feel About First Date Sex?
Most men we interviewed (some not included in the video below) said they would not rule out a relationship with a girl who had first date sex. However, many of these same men did say it was not a quality they looked for in a woman. One of these same guys said he would wonder if she had first date sex all the time. So it seems like having first date sex is not an automatic relationship killer, yet there are some benefits on waiting to have sex.
Not Having First Date Sex Creates Anticipation
We suggest you try and keep your pants on at least for the first few dates. Make him work for it. Not having first date sex will create an intense anticipation and he will want you even more. Allow him to wine and dine you. Instead of having first date sex with him, let him chase you a little, men like the chase There is no reason to rush into sex. Get to know him a little, because on the first date you proabably don’t even know his last name. .
Do your homework. Maybe you will realize you don’t even really like him and it was simply lust you had for him. Sometimes sex can be confusing and having it too early can make you think you have feelings that might not really be there. Many times women associate sex with love or develop feelings for men a lot faster than men do. Some men can easily have sex without emotions, while for women it because a little harder.
Will He Respect You If You Have First Date Sex?
Most men will not pass up the opportunity to have first date sex. For many men first date sex is something you only hear about in the movies, so if given the chance they will not say no to sex. Unfortuntly, some of these same men may be judmental. He might wonder if you are promiscuous. Maybe you felt a connction with him, and you just go with your desires. Maybe you tell him that you usually don’t have first date sex, but I’m sure he has heard that line before. Making the guy wait tells him you respect yourself and you are not a slut. Don’t make it easy for him right away. Dating is supposed be about having fun and getting to know each other. Don’t jump right into the sack. Waiting to have sex creates a challenge for him and it keeps his interest going. Lets face it ladies, when you first meet a guy all he can think about is how fast your clothes are coming off. He doesn’t know anything about you, so all he can is go off your looks. I truly do not believe in love at first sight. How can you love someone you don’t know? When you love someone you love them for a variety of reasons such as, their personality, the way they treat you, how much they care about you, and their overall personal. How can you truly love someone you just met and you do not know anything about. Instead it is more like LUST AT FIRST SIGHT.
To find out more about what guys think about first date sex ask Dr. V