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What is True Love is the question that many of us ask.  All our lives, in movies, novels and songs, and from family and friends, we are bombarded with tales of romance, of men and women conquering the age-old mystery of what is true love. The short, sad answer is nobody knows what true love is. True love is a concept and the definition is subjective from person to person. If you ask ten different people what true love is, most will give a somewhat different answer. Look it up on dictionary.com and you get “a sweetheart; a truly loving or loved person.”

The truth is what brings two people together into a state they define as true love remains a mystery to those who are not those two people. Many people proclaim to know the magical formula for deciphering what is true love, but in truth they are attempting to squeeze other people’s stories into their narrow range of experience and make it fit. We hear so many stories about love at first sight, or how they knew they were meant to be together as soon as they met. True love is something that most people want to feel and experience.

I happen to believe that true love takes many forms and any attempt to make a list of what you need from another person to make your love “true” is insincere at best. The answer to what is true love is already inside you. Somewhere halfway between your heart and your head, there is a sweet spot where you can be completely content with someone. This person in your life is able to appeal to you on a physical and emotional level, but then here I go making a list.

The hard part about defining “what is true love” is that these boundaries are fluid.

They not only vary person to person, but also in the same person through time. The trick is being able to look critically within yourself to learn what it is you are seeking in your quest for true love. Is it passion, stability, good genetics or maybe the whole enchilada? If you are sitting at your computer looking for the answer, I am sorry to tell you, but your computer doesn’t know. You do. But then, we are forgetting one important factor…..the other person.

Often overlooked in the discussion of true love is the other person, your lover.

Some of history’s greatest stories are tales of love forsaken or squandered. It does not matter if you are completely smitten. If the other person does not have the same level and expectation of love, the union will eventually fizzle. Both persons have to be seeking love and work towards maintaining it. True love is not something that simply remains the same throughout your relationship. Love is something that couples have to put time and commitment in order for it to grow, because even true love can eventually fizzle out.

What is true love?

It is two people who by fate happen to be looking for each other at the same time. It is two people who complete the subjective pictures they have for their dream lover in their respective heads. What is true love? I just told you I don’t know. Should you stop trying to find out? Never.

 Signs you may have found true love:

1. You feel secure and can’t imagine your life without the person.

2. You have full respect for each other. True love does not have any verbal abuse.

3. You do thoughtful things for each other and don’t expect anything in return.

4. True love has full trust. There is no infidelity. If he cheats on you or lies, believe me it is not true love.